I’ll Tell Cupid Where He Can Put His Arrows…..

**I originally posted this on October 19, 2011. I think this is still pertinent to people today.

broken heart

Written February 14, 2011

“I don’t understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine’s Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon.” -Anonymous

“I’ll tell Cupid where he can put his arrows…..” -ME

4:30 PM:  Today is Valentine’s Day. Yay! (dripping with sarcasm) Usually a day that isn’t so bad, if you are in a relationship of some sort. I’m usually pretty excited about this day because I’m married so I don’t have to worry about being alone on this wretched day of days. However, this year Cupid has decided to be a comedian. My husband moved out today, not the day before or the day after, the day of Valentine’s Day. To top it off Valentine’s fell on a Monday this year, how screwed up is that?!?! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised we haven’t slept in the same bed, much less the same room, since before Christmas. My family didn’t know about that until today when I had to call my mom and tell her he moved out. Is it bad that I can’t even remember the last time we kissed, really kissed? I wonder if that will be the last time and if so would I have wanted to know then that it would be the last kiss? Would I have enjoyed it more or still taken it for granted?  My instinct is to still take care of him. I had to fight the urge to help him pack. I even offered to wash his clothes before he packed to leave. I guess it’s hard to break. I have been taking care of him, in one way or another, for the last 7 years. How can I be so angry at someone, but yet still want to take care of them? My marriage is over. Wow. That’s the first time I have admitted it to myself, much less written it down. Now it seems real. We stopped fighting and when you do that I think it means you don’t feel like it’s worth fighting for anymore. When did we stop believing? When did we give up? When did we grow apart? What made him start looking elsewhere? When did I stop being enough?

I’m so damn pathetic! I’m writing this while I’m sitting on my bathroom floor, crying. I’ve been sitting here since he left. I’m stronger than this or at least I use to be. I never let him see me cry though. I can’t decide if that’s a good thing or not. I might never know. Would it have helped? STOP IT!! LANA, GET UP OFF THIS FLOOR!!

9:45 PM:  Thank God for my family!! I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to get off that floor. It was pitying me and mocking me all at the same time. Then my saving grace called Angela, my sweet sister-in-law. I was invited to have dinner with her, my brother, and my beautiful niece and nephews. I’m not sure I will ever tell her this, but she is what pulled me up off the bathroom floor tonight. I just got back. We went to my favorite restaurant. My brother bought me a margarita, or two. 🙂 We laughed and the best part was the beautiful Valentine’s Day cards my niece and nephews gave me. I have them laying by my bed. It was exactly the pick me up that I needed after today.

On a side note, couples EVERYWHERE!! BARF!!!!!!!!!!! I swear, I wanted them all to choke on their little-candied hearts! But I’m not bitter….hahaha. 🙂 And maybe I hope that my husband is laying in bed, crying, watching cheesy Lifetime movies, and thinking of me. But, again, I’m not bitter. Cupid can shove his arrows where the sun doesn’t shine……..but I’m not bitter. (Third time is the charm, right? Believe me now?) No bitterness, none! Nope! Nada! I understand why alcohol is so popular on this holiday. 🙂 Just because I hope Hallmark goes bankrupt and can’t make more cards for next year does not mean I am bitter.


“Stupid Cupid, stop pickin’ on me.” -Patsy Cline



    • Thank you! Yes it has been 7 years and I have definitely moved on. I am remarried with two beautiful little boys. I just thought this was worth sharing for anyone that might be going through this now. Thanks for the comment. 🙂


  1. Valentines is a tricky day I think… If you’re in a relationship, you HAVE TO give each other cards etc and if you don’t get it right or have a bad day it can easily cause insecurity, arguments etc. like you have to really PROVE your love on that day. And if you’re not in a relationship, it’s a day that can make you feel extra lonely and disappointed etc. Also, it’s quite over-commercialised. So yeah, it’s tricky… Terrible timing by your ex to move out on that day (7 years ago), though might have been even worse if you had to spend it together while knowing it was over? How great that your sister-in-law and family stepped in and made your evening so much better! xx #KCACOLS

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  2. To go from this to remarried and happy gives me hope. There is a chance my husband and I will separate in the new year. Whilst I’m not sure that I will ever remarry, it’s currently feels like a huge mountain to climb #KCACOLS


  3. Glad to hear through these comments that life has been kinder to you over the last 7 years, but holy moly, couldn’t your ex have done it a day or so earlier? Terrible timing! #KCACOLS

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  4. I am going through something similar at the moment, the same week as our wedding anniversary. It’s all my fault, I have made some dubious decisions over the last 11 months. Even though it was my choice, watching him leave was so hard. Glad things have turned around for you.

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