My Son, What I Wish for You…..


“A good mother is worth hundreds of schoolmasters.” -George Herbert

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”  – Dr. Seuss

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman

“Wisdom begins in wonder.” – Socrates

Dearest Nikola,

You are my first-born which means all your firsts are also firsts for me. When you go off to pre-k on Monday, it will be like my first day of school all over again. I can’t believe this day is already here. It seems like just yesterday that your Daddy and I were coming home with this new bundle of joy. God gave you to me to take care of and now I feel like I am having to let go a little bit. I have to trust that you can do this. I have to trust that you are going to be just fine. I have some wishes for you, my sweet boy, and even though you might not understand them now you will one day.

1) Remember to be Kind

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” –Aesop 

This is the beginning of character building for you. No matter what remember to be kind. I want the children and the people you meet to see what I see, which is a boy who has a heart of gold. You will see children that are different. You will see children that have more than you, some that have less than you, some that look different, or talk different, but remember to be kind. The heart is what makes a person, not what is on the outside. Something that seems small to you, might seem so large to someone else.


“Nothing you wear is more important than your smile.” -Connie Stevens

Have fun. I know that you might be nervous. I know that it might be a little scary. Buddy, I’ll let you in on a little secret, your classmates feel the same way. Your smile might give other students the confidence to walk up to you and say “hi,” and who knows maybe this person will become your best friend. Your smile brings out the best in me, let it do the same for others.

3) Things Won’t Always Go Your Way

“When something goes wrong in your life, just yell, ‘PLOT TWIST,’ and move on.” -Unknown

Life is going to be hard. School might not always be predictable, but I pray you learn to go with the flow. Don’t react with fear or anger. Change is good.

4) Listen and Learn

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” -Bryant H. McGill

Your teachers and fellow classmates have so much to teach you, but you must listen. Open your eyes, open your mind, and open your ears and no one will be able to stop you. You are so smart. True intelligence comes from knowing when to speak and when to listen. If you want to be heard, give others the same respect.

5) Ask Questions

“The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.” -Thomas Berger

If you feel lost, scared, or overwhelmed during the day remember to ask questions. Questions are ok. Questions are good. There is no such thing as a stupid question.


6) Allow Yourself to be Amazed

“Many children… delight in the small and inconspicuous.” -Rachel Carson

This world is a beautiful place and there is so much out there for you to see and learn. Please, don’t lose the ability to be amazed. I wish I could see the world through your eyes. I pray you continue to be “wowed.”

7) Believe in Yourself

“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” -Roy T. Bennett

Always believe in yourself. I do. Your daddy does. Kiddo, I am your biggest fan. Never give up.

8) If You See a child sitting alone at breakfast or sitting alone at recess…

“The only way to have a friend is to be one.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Go sit with them or ask if they want to play. Remember this might be you one day and you would want someone to do this for you.

9) Speak Up 

“Ten people who speak make more noise than ten thousand who are silent.” -Napoleon Bonaparte

Let the world hear your voice. Don’t be afraid to answer questions and show how much you know. Don’t be afraid to be wrong. Don’t be afraid to be right. You are worth being heard.

10) Remember Your Brother Looks up to You

“Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero.” -Marc Brown

Remember that your little brother is watching you. Be a guiding light for him. When you learn something new, come home and teach your brother. He loves you so very much.

11) No Matter How Bad (or Good) Your Day is remember this…

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying I will try again tomorrow.” -Mary Anne Radmacher

I will be waiting for you at the end of the day. You get to go home. I want to hear all about your day and everything that you have learned. I’m proud of you.

Remember that God loves you. Remember that you are made for greatness. This is the beginning for you, Baby Boy, and I can’t wait to see all that you will accomplish.

Your Mommy Loves You!




  1. This is a great list. #8 is my favorite. It is just so important to find the lonely child and befriend him. This is how we raise kids with compassion. How we end bullies. Kids who don’t enjoy school. If every child had a friend at school I imagine a greater love for education.

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