It’s The Little Things…


“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” –Friedrich Nietzsche

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, every day. You and me… every day.” –Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

“The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.” –Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare

“You must choose to live by encouragement rather than by expectations.” –Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare

I made a decision today. I won’t let life get in the way of making my relationship great with my husband. We have some things we need to work on. It always takes work and sometimes life likes to make you think that you don’t have the time to cultivate your relationships. A quote from The Love Dare really caught my attention, “choose to live by encouragement rather than expectations.” Wow. Maybe I nag a little too much? Maybe I stopped doing the little things? Life will tell you that you don’t have the time, but don’t let it. I believe it is the small things that matter.

Today, I decided that I am going to make a conscious effort to make my husband smile every day and to remind him that I am in love with him and grateful for all that he does for our family.

Happily Ever After

Day 1: I sent my husband this text, “If my life was a ship, you would be the anchor that holds me in place and the sails which take me on a beautiful journey. I love you.”

You strengthen your marriage when you give it time and attention. Make it so strong that no matter what life throws at you, together, you will be able to overcome it. I fell in love with this man for a reason, for many reasons, and it is up to me to remind myself that he is still the man I love. Life likes to play games with your mind and sometimes situations aren’t great, but you have to remember that you chose this person for a reason. Grab each other’s hand and triumph together. A marriage is either a success or a failure based on all the little choices you make on a daily basis.

We had a “Date Day” yesterday. It was so much fun. We had lunch, went to a movie, played Lazor Tag, did a Zombie Escape Room, and had a few drinks. It was so nice to be a couple for a day, not just “mommy” and “daddy.” We got to hold hands and steal kisses. I got to watch a movie with my head on his shoulder. It was nice to be reminded of how it all started. We have the life we have today, with our two beautiful little boys, because we fell in love. Our love created this madness. 🙂 It should be remembered and celebrated from time to time. I want to look back in 20 years and realize that we are even more in love than we were on day one. It takes work, but it is worth it.


Remember why you fell in love in the first place. Send that text message. Hug a little tighter, a little longer. Forgive a little quicker. Never take it for granted. Remember people are out there praying for the life you have. Be grateful. Smile. Laugh. Love.


Categories: Encouragement, Family, Love

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    • YES! You are welcome! That is amazing! 28 years! We have only been together almost 7, married for 5. I don’t feel like I am a professional when it comes to marriage. This is my second marriage. I wrote a lot about going through my divorce in my earlier posts. I just think that marriage is really hard and takes a lot of work, but it is so worth it. Thanks for taking the time to comment.


  1. I love this. So many people are quick to get divorced because “they didn’t feel loved anymore..” It definitely takes work! We are going on 10 years together and I can’t imagine any one else I’d rather be with 🙂

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    • Wow!! You seriously made my day! This is a huge compliment. Thank you!! I actually wrote this because we are going through a period of disconnect. It is crazy how marriage can change. I definitely get what my grandma meant when she said “marriage has seasons.” 🙂 Have a great weekend!


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