When Dreams Are Dangerous…
“Just let go. Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.” -Caroline Myss
“You’re mourning the loss of what you thought your life was going to be. Let it go. Things don’t always work out how you planned; that’s not necessarily bad. Things have a way of working out anyway.” -Frasier Crane
“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance. The wise grows it under his feet.” -James Oppenheim
For a few weeks now, I have had this thought running through my head. We constantly tell our children, and we even tell ourselves, to dream big. Never stop dreaming. Anything is possible. I think that this can be a dangerous concept.
Wait. Wait. Wait. Hear (or read 🙂 ) me out before you click my page closed and write me off as crazy. We want our kids to dream big and believe that anything is possible. We don’t want adults to give up on their dreams because I do believe that we should strive to be great and to live a life of fullness, but this is also where the danger comes into play. At what cost? We have to teach our children (and ourselves) how to be content. Believe me, I am a dreamer. (Aren’t most writers dreamers?) I have a grandiose view of life. I believe in miracles. I believe that love can conquer all. However, recent situations in my life and in the lives of my loved ones have made me look at things a little differently. We can’t get so caught up in the idea of life or the idea of what our life should be, and MISS OUT on what is right in front of us.
Is my life turning out like I had envisioned before gray started sneaking into my hair?
No. I am not a published writer. I am not a profiler for the FBI. I am not living in a house with a wrap around porch, with a swing at every corner. Do I still believe that any of that is possible? Yes. I publish myself weekly on my blog! 🙂 The house might not ever happen, but it is possible. I probably won’t be a profiler for the FBI, but I can figure out most killers on all the true crime documentaries that I watch. 🙂
I want my boys to dream. Big, beautiful dreams. But I don’t want them to get so caught up in those dreams that they miss out on the miracles that are around them every single day. I don’t want their dreams to be tied directly to their happiness. Just because something doesn’t work out the way they planned doesn’t mean that they need to wallow in their disappointment and miss out on the next great thing that life has planned for them. What scares me about the world we live in today is that so many people get caught up in the next big thing. We accomplish or acquire something and yet we crave more. There is nothing wrong with striving for more and for greatness. I think the problem comes when you get to a point that no matter what you accomplish or what material things you acquire that nothing will ever be enough. We can’t get so entrapped in the “next big thing” that we don’t take time to be thankful for what we have. We live in a world where we want MORE, MORE, MORE.
Dream Big! Never give up! Reach for the stars! Just remember to count your blessings. Celebrate all accomplishments, big and small. Don’t forget the people who stuck with you along the way. Do not let your happiness be dependant upon your success. Don’t get so caught up in the big things that you don’t see all the beautiful, magical little things that surround you every day.
I think James Oppenheim said it best, “the foolish man seeks happiness in the distance. The wise grows it under his feet.”
Shoot for the heavens, but be content among the stars. 🙂