According to Merriam-Webster, a pearl of wisdom is defined as “a wise word or statement; often humorous.” Recently I came across some handwritten words of wisdom from my MaMaw Nina, who passed away in 2012. It inspired me to reach out to family and friends to make a collection of “pearls of wisdom.” The times have changed and the world we live in today is so much more fast-paced and materialistic than it was before when my grandparents and great-grandparents were growing up. I asked my family and friends to share their pearls of wisdom, anything that they think needs to be passed down to the next generation. This is an inspiring post for me and I plan on referring back to it many times, but I really want to be able to pass this along to my boys when they get older. I hope you find some of these pearls, inspiring, uplifting, helpful, and maybe even funny. Life was slower and so much more simple, even just 10 years ago. My hope is these little gems will help you slow down a bit and take a moment to learn something new or be inspired.
MaMaw Nina’s Pearls:
Take time to enjoy the smell of rain (my favorite smell). Take time to listen to the birds’ sing, observe the wonders of a hummingbird. Be playful and mock a “Bob White.”
Take the time to clean at least one window, really good so the sunshine can beam through. Then, sit back…look at the streaks and laugh-remember we are never perfect.
Pray on your knees, at least once a day. It can really make you feel humble.
Sometimes crying doesn’t fix everything but add some ice cream, and you’ve got a winner.
Midnight Snacks: the most important meal of the day!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Midnight Snacks don’t make it to the hips. (Man! I love this woman and miss her SO!)
Aunt Tracy’s Pearl from her friend Jan After her First Child was Born:
Always get up in the mornings and take care of myself before you do anything else for the day because if you don’t you will never have the time for you. She was so right! I still to this day remember her advice and heed it.
Aunt Bobbie’s Pearls:
Greet God every morning.
Always ask for help.
Mothers set up the day for their children. Choose the tempo.
Introduce your children to Jesus early in life. They will need Him even more than they will need you.
Be involved but don’t hover. Kids need some space to discover some things on their own.
If you can’t bring something to a gathering, you can certainly help clean up.
Don’t be wishy-washy. Say nothing until you make a decision and then stand by it.
Be kind or be quiet.
Mind your manners.
Your spouse should get the best part of you, not the leftovers of the day.
Your children deserve a happy, healthy you.
Be there. Stay in the present.
Stay in peace.
In every disagreement, decide; would you rather be right or have peace.
When you are wrong, admit it. When you are right, hush.
Learn as many skills as you can so you will always find a job. (From Grandpa Bundick)
Deal with people honestly. (From Grandpa Bundick)
When you get a job, make a hand. (From Grandpa Bundick)
Anything in excess is not healthy.
When speaking to someone who is being unreasonable, save your breath to cool your soup. (From her Granny)
Your mother-in-law can be your worst enemy or your best ally. It’s up to you.
Granny Bobbie’s Pearls:
Those who pray together stay together.
Never date a man you would not marry.
My Cousin Cynthia’s Pearls:
Never go to bed angry/mad at your spouse!
Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.
Pappy Fryar’s Pearls:
Birds of a feather flock together.
If everybody else is jumping off a cliff are you going to jump off too?
Always be a gentleman.
Treat everyone with respect.
If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
That’s a horse of a different color.
To have a friend, first, you must be a friend.
My Cousin Kimberly’s Pearls:
When you’re dating, that’s as good as it gets. (Her mother)
The guy you think is SO great at 18, you won’t give the time of day to at 28. (Her mother)
Beauty has no pain. (When her girls were little with tangles)
Figure out how many kids you can handle financially, physically, emotionally and stick to your number.
My Cousin Virginia’s Pearls:
Never turn down a gift. If you turn down a gift given freely you are robbing the giver of a blessing. (Her Grandpa. She learned this blessing by watching the interaction between her dad and grandpa. 🙂 )
Sin splatters. (Dallas Huston)
My Cousin Becky’s Pearls:
Greet your husband every morning with a smile and happy attitude. It sets the tone for the day. This way you start the day out happy together. (Aunt Bobbie)
You can do anything you want, you might take a different path than others due to your eyesight but you can still do whatever you choose with your life. No one can hold you back but you. (Grandma Bundick)
Prayer is free. (Grandma Bundick)
My Cousin Stephanie’s Pearls:
I can’t make decisions for you, but you can make the right ones with prayers. (Grandma Bundick)
I may not like you right now, but I always love you. (Grandma Bundick)
Always warm your hands before milking the cow. (Grandpa Bundick)
You might as well smile, they are gonna take your picture either way. (Grandpa Bundick)
My Friend Linda’s Pearl:
My wisdom for staying married 40 years – put nothing above the relationship with your spouse. Even children will grow up and leave, your spouse will always be there if you cherish them. Love your children, but make sure the relationship between you and your spouse remains the most important piece of your life.
My Husband Ben’s Pearl from his Grandpa:
Make a hand, BenTor.
It’s always nice to be nice.
It’s better to be hated for something you are than loved for something you are not.
Never miss out on a chance to tell the people closest to you how important they are. You never know when the opportunity to do so will be gone.
You can never have too many pairs of underwear. 🙂
Plan in decades. Think in years. Work in months. Live in days.
A little goes a long way. A little love will get you through just about anything. A little kindness from a friend will get you to the next day. A little happiness can keep you going.
Be happy — it drives people crazy. 🙂
One last story about my Grandma Bundick retold to me by my Aunt Bobbie.
If you want your hubby to do something for you, just start it and make a mess out of it and he will take over and finish it for you. But know that you are big enough to finish if you need to or call your sister to help you. 🙂 😉