“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.” -C. JoyBell C.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” -Ann Landers
“I realize there’s something incredibly honest about trees in winter, how they’re experts at letting things go.” -Jeffrey McDaniel
“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is, therefore, the means for correcting our misperceptions.” -Gerald G. Jampolsky
I know this year wasn’t what we had planned. 2018 was tough, to say the least. The end of the year is a time that we tend to look ahead and make goals/resolutions for the upcoming year. However, I think we also need to take this time to look back, ever so briefly, onto 2018 and then let go.
What is so necessary about letting go?
Letting go is the choice to relinquish unhealthy attachments to events, memories, people, emotions…etc. I don’t believe that you can truly move forward while holding on tightly to the past. This year has been full of surprises, disappointments, failures, trials, stress, and fear. However, if you keep a tight, white-knuckle grip on the past (2018) then you will not able to see what good was also given to you this year. You can not make room for the blessings ahead if you continue to hold onto the misfortunes of yesterday. <3 That is the importance of letting go. That is why it is so necessary. Don’t let the horrible parts of this past year, outweigh the beauty of this year and don’t let the heartache of 2018 take away the potential that is 2019. Next year is all yours and it can be what you make of it so don’t take the bitter taste of 2018 with you.
Your family changed this year. Your parents have decided to end their marriage after 29 years together. There is so much more to this story, but it is not our story to tell. You have written about the power of forgiveness and I think it is time for you to take your own advice. You can’t truly forgive until you let go. Do you agree with all the choices that your friends and family members made this year? No. But the glorious thing is, YOU DON’T HAVE TO. Luke 6:37 says, “do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:31-36 says, “do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High because He is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” Be merciful with yourself too.
Why Is Letting Go So Hard?
I think in some cases it goes back to the concept of taking responsibility. For some, it is easier to blame circumstances or people from their past for the current problems that they are in. Don’t let yourself do that. Be stronger than that. Realize you are in control of the choices you make. Take responsibility for what you are in charge of. You are not responsible for the choices of your family and friends, but you are responsible for how you react to them. It is important to validate the impact our past has on us, but we can’t keep placing the blame on it. Don’t disempower yourself like that. Claim your power. Don’t let the past hold you in a place that you don’t want to be.
Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget. Letting go isn’t about forgetting, but accepting. Acceptance. If I could hug you now, I would. I would hug you and tell you that we don’t have to forget, but we can let go. We deserve to not be stuck. We deserve to thrive and welcome the blessings that are waiting for us if we just open ourselves up to the idea that we deserve good things. <3
Letting go is an act of self-love. Believe that you are worth the blessings ahead. Look back at 2018, take responsibility for what you were in charge of, cry for what hurt you, but then let go.
I LOVE YOU.
“For unto us a child is born, unto us, a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” -Isaiah 9:6