December 24 – Christmas Angels: Lost Loved Ones At Christmas Time
Are you kneeling with shepherds before him now
Can you reach out and touch his face
Are you part of that glorious Holy night
I wonder what Christmas in Heaven is like.
Is the snow falling down on the streets of gold?
Are the mansions all covered in white?
Are you singing with angels “Silent Night”
I wonder what Christmas in Heaven is like.
Scotty McCreery, Christmas in Heaven
My MaMaw Nina passed away in April of 2012, and I still think about her constantly during the holidays. Christmas was her favorite time of the year. She loved the cooking, baking, music, movies, decorations, and she really loved her tree and lights.
Christmas Eve, we would spend cooking and baking for Christmas Day. We would make cookies to leave out for Santa and Apple Cider or Hot Chocolate would always be in our mugs. Christmas classics would continuously be played on TV and the lights would be on from Christmas Eve morning until after Christmas Day. “Light up your home for Santa,” she would say. We would read the Christmas Story and sing “Happy Birthday,” to Jesus.
Christmas Day would be spent spending time with family and friends, eating and playing games. We would eat until we feel like we are going to bust. 🙂 Then we would fall asleep by the lights of the Christmas tree.
This got me to thinking, what about the other people that have lost family members, whether it is a recent loss or not, I know they still think of their loved ones like I think of mine. What is something we could do to include our lost loved ones, even if they are no longer physically with us?
Ideas For Our Christmas Angels
- Include their favorite food, year after year. Did “Uncle Bob” love sweet potato pie? Then have “Uncle’s Bob’s” sweet potatoes every year! <3
- Create a playlist of your loved one’s favorite Christmas songs.
- Memory Tablecloth. I love this idea. You can read about it here. Basically, ask your friends and family members to write down their favorite holiday memories about the ones that are no longer with you on a tablecloth. <3 Love this!
- Light a candle at the beginning of your family celebration/dinner or whatever your family normally does together, and let it burn throughout. If you are like me and don’t like leaving a real candle lit for long, mainly because of my little guys running around, then you can buy a beautiful LED candle.
- Add an extra plate for your loved one.
- Create a special ornament for your loved one and place it on the tree every year.
- Give to charity. Every year donate to a charity in the name of your loved one.
- Moment of silence, before or after dinner, whenever feels right for you and your family.
- Memory Stocking: Write down memories, words of encouragement or appreciation, anything, and place in a stocking.
- Release a balloon with a note attached to your loved one.
- Purchase a gift with your Christmas Angel in mind, wrap it and give it to someone less fortunate in memory of your loved one.
- Create a memory board to display in your home.
- Decorate a small Christmas tree and donate it to an area hospice, nursing home, shelter or another caregiving facility.
- Plant a tree.
- Create and give memorial gifts to family members, friends and others who knew your Christmas Angel.
- Make a memorial wreath that you hang on your front door or anywhere in your home.
- Create a “memory chain” by writing your favorite holiday memories or adjectives that reflect your Christmas Angel’s special qualities onto long, narrow strips of colored paper. Form interlinking loops with each piece to form a chain you can hang on your Christmas tree or use to frame a doorway.
These are just a few ideas. Do whatever feels right, depending on the personality and qualities of your own Christmas Angel. <3 I am so sorry for your loss. I know the holidays can be difficult, but I, personally, believe we will see our Christmas Angels again. May you find a way to still find peace and joy this time of year.
“For unto us a child is born, unto us, a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” -Isaiah 9:6