Mental Health Warriors: Rural Ruby
Welcome to my series Mental Health Warriors. Today, I would like to introduce you to Stephanie from Rural Ruby. Last time, I introduced you to Laurie from Seeking Serenity & Harmony. You can read her personal journey here.
Mental health is an issue that needs to be talked about, no matter how difficult it might be so I put up a form on my blog asking people to share their mental health journey. I am moved by the fact these people are willing to share their stories, even though I know it isn’t easy, just to raise awareness and touch the lives of some that might really be struggling and feeling alone.
Here is Stephanie’s personal story about mental health, in her own words.
Do you deal with a mental illness?
Nothing officially diagnosed. I deal with everyday mom life with a touch of perfectionism.
Help me understand what it is like to live with this?
I’m very hard on myself, and stress easily, sometimes to the point of not enjoying things as I feel I should. That adds guilt to the mixture.
Have you dealt with this your whole life?
Since college, when I carried a course load of 21-24 hours/semester, striving for straight-A’s.
How old were you when you first got diagnosed or got help?
I am only self-diagnosed, and my husband has been a gift from God in helping me. He’s very laid back- Mr. “It-is-what-it-is.”
What are some of the survival skills that help you get through a rough day or rough period?
Stop, and ask myself if anything I’m stressing about will matter in a day, a week, a month, a year. Focus on what TRULY matters; for me, that is faith and family. I’m learning that I don’t HAVE to do it all, and it is okay to make self-care a priority. You really can’t pour from an empty cup.
Have you learned your triggers? Or have you learned how to spot when it is about to get bad?
My biggest trigger is fatigue. If my calendar fills up, I feel a sense of dread. I need downtime.
What is something you can tell people that have family members with a mental illness? Is there anything they can do to help?
This is such a big deal! Stop. Don’t judge. Don’t try to see their perspective from your perspective. LISTEN to what they’re feeling, and imagine how you’d feel in their shoes. BE THERE without judging.
Words of advice or encouragement?
Take it one day, one task, one breath at a time. It’s okay to not be perfect at everything. Just keep pressing forward.
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Thank you so much, Stephanie, for sharing your story with us.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10