Hey, New Mommies! <3

 

“Mothers are all slightly insane.” –J. D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye

“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” –Barbara Kingsolver, Homeland and Other Stories

“Supermom wasn’t a bad job description. The pay was lousy if you were talking about real money. But the payoff was priceless in so many other ways.” -Roxanne Henke

 

Recently, I was asked what advice I would give to a new mommy. It took me back for a minute. My first thought was, why are you asking me? I have no idea! 🙂 Well, I have two kids of my own now, so that makes me an expert, right? HA!! 🙂 It seems like just yesterday I was struggling to find as much information as possible to prepare for becoming a mom. So at that moment, this blog topic was born!

Listen and Smile

You will be given A LOT of advice, and it usually comes from a good place, but some of what you hear from different people will be contradicting. For example, breastfeeding vs. formula. Listen to the advice you are given, smile and be kind, but remember YOU get the final say. Bottom line, do what is best for you and your baby/family.

It Will Be OK

There will be moments where you don’t feel like it will be ok. But it will. And I also want to point out that when you are exhausted a lot of things feel impossible. Exhaustion plays tricks with your emotions and your logical thinking. But what I would have loved to be told when I was a newbie is that whatever you are feeling, just FEEL it. It is OK to be tired. It is OK to be scared. It is OK to cry. It is OK to make mistakes because we all do. Let me also be adamant, if you feel like what you are feeling is more than just a few new mom baby blues than please reach out for help. Talk to your doctor. Postpartum Depression is not to be taken lightly. Here is a helpful link for PPD.

Breathe And Take In Every Moment (Even the crazy ones!)

Take LOTS of pictures. Babies change so quickly. With both of my boys, the “newborn” phase seemed to go so quickly. They didn’t stay teeny tiny very long. 😦 Sometimes I feel like if I didn’t have pictures I wouldn’t remember that they were ever that little! Try to cherish each new moment. The new sound. The new smile. The first giggle. All these phases are temporary, even the hard ones, and one day you will look back and realize it all went by so fast, even if you didn’t feel like it in the heat of the “battle.” 😉 I truly agree with the statement that “the days are long and the years are quick.”

 

Motherhood Is A Job

It is a job and you might not “love” it every day. And that is completely OK. However, being a mom has been the most rewarding job I have ever had and I know that nothing will ever top it. Eventually, it will get easier and sometimes you have to learn to just LET IT GO. I think that is something that I might not have learned with my first, but it has definitely been learned with my second. Don’t compare yourself to other mothers. Don’t get fired up over the small things. Choose your battles. If I cried every time something was spilled or broken I would be crying all day long. Sometimes you just have to LET IT GO. ❤ And remember, if you are deep in the trenches and need a lifeline…just call your Mom. 😉

There Will Come A Time…

When you must choose to either sleep when your baby is sleeping or

  • shower
  • eat
  • wash clothes
  • clean house
  • etc…

It really is ok to choose sleep. Honestly, choose what you need the most. If it is sleep, then it is ok to let the dishes or the clothes sit a little longer than normal. In fact, find your new normal. Learn that it is ok to ask for help.

Last Little Tid Bits…

Have fun! It really does happen all too fast. Get all the cuddles you can get. Pray. A LOT. ❤ Journal and write down dates. One day you will love looking back and remembering.

 

Good luck, Mamas!!


Running on Love, Vitamins, and Coffee.

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“Raising a kid is part joy and part guerilla warfare.” -Ed Asner

“Did you know, when kids go to bed, you can hear yourself think again? I sound fabulous.” -Paige Kellerman

“Having kids makes you look stable to the people who thought you were crazy and crazy to the people who thought you were stable.” -Kelly Oxford

“Dance like only your kid is watching. Cook like no one will scream they hate it. And sneeze like you won’t pee your pants.” -Kristin (@shriekhouse)

CoffeeBooksThe last three weeks have been crazy! My house has slowly come to resemble a circus. My oldest started pre-k close to four weeks ago and ever since I feel like I have been non-stop. I have been blessed to be able to stay at home with my boys, so he hasn’t had to go to daycare or anything like that before. The germs of so many children and adults have really taken a toll on him. During the first week of school, he got diagnosed with scarlet fever/strep. Two weeks ago, we had to take him to the ER  because he couldn’t catch his breath, even after I gave him a breathing treatment. They gave him a powerful steroid to fight off the swelling and wheezing. Last Friday night, he started running fever and vomiting. On top of all of that, he has just seemed so sleepy. Keep On Reading!


Mom Fail! Please, tell me I’m not alone. 😕😳😢

Fail

“The motto of a truly heroic mother: Hang in there, try, fight, fail, rise up and fight again, and win.” -Reed B. Markham

“There are so many times you will feel you have failed, but in the eyes, heart, and mind of your child, you are supermom.” -Stephanie Precourt

In September of last year, my oldest son had his first trip to the ER. He was only three years old. It was about 8:00 am on a Sunday morning. I was sitting in my living room, drinking my coffee when I heard this horrible POP and then Nikola screamed like I have never heard him scream before. I immediately started to smell a burning smell. I ran into our sunroom/playroom and my heart stopped. Nikola was standing by an electrical outlet with burns on his hands and tops of his feet.  Keep On Reading!


Every Day Life: Struggling to Find Inspiration

drowing“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” –Barbara Kingsolver

“Your friends will believe in your potential, your enemies will make you live up to it.” –Tim Fargo

“Courage is fear that has said its prayers and decided to go forward anyway.” –Joyce Meyer

“Have God make a message out of your mess.” –Joyce Meyer

**This was written in July 2018. This post is the reason I decided to start blogging again. I needed something to get me out of my pit. I thought I would share. I think I started my blog back up about a week after this was written. I look back at this now and I am so glad I made a choice to be proactive and not stay in this place of feeling completely alone. I still have my rough days, but I am in such a better place now. Amen to that. It is never too late to turn things around. Don’t be scared to take a hold of your own life. Joyce Meyer said it perfectly “have God make a message out of your mess.”

My boys are beautiful. My husband works hard for the roof over our head, the food on our table, the clothes on our back, the cool air coming from the vents, so why do I feel so uninspired? Keep On Reading!